Stop fearing intimacy. Start embracing love.
Mary Ellen Solon, LCSW
Couples counseling for survivors of violence and abuse.
Now accepting clients for in-person sessions in Tulsa and virtually across Oklahoma and Vermont.
I help couples to feel intimate and connected without hesitation or fear.
My clients struggle as you do. Despite having a relationship that is comfortable, dependable, and supportive, they feel closed off from each other.
When they first come in, they long for each other but the distance between them feels impossible to breach. They are alone and lonely together all the time.
They want to respond more fully when a squeeze on the shoulder turns into a caress but instead they just smile and move on to the next task at hand. The uncomfortable thoughts and feelings that come with slowing down are too overwhelming to bear.
They want to be touched and fully wrapped up in love but they’re afraid of being too open and too exposed.
Old traumas and abusive exes are like ghosts that haunt my clients. They want their bodies and hearts to know what their rational minds already do: that they are safe to feel free and secure. That they can ask for what they want and need and not face ridicule.
Before they came to see me, they thought couples counseling would validate their worst fears about themselves and the state of their relationship. They worried they would face blame and be made to feel inadequate as a partner. And they were pretty certain that being open and direct with their partners could result in losing their familiar and stable relationship all together.
Like my clients, your relationship can be the sanctuary you long for. Joyful and satisfying intimacy, in ALL its forms, is not out of your reach.
If you’d like to experience both passion and safety in your relationship, I’d love to help you get there.
Frequently asked questions
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Insurance is not accepted for client privacy purposes. In cases which individual counseling clients are provided diagnosis and prefer to make use of health insurance, a superbill can be provided.
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Counseling sessions range from $130-$155 depending on the service. Please visit the fees page for a breakdown of available services and associated costs.
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Dual relationships may involve risk to clients. In effect, therapy clients are not able to receive clinical supervision or reiki services and vice versa.
If you are interested in more than one offering at Root Hearts Therapy, a referral will be made to help you meet all your needs in a trusted manner.
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Rooted Hearts Therapy is an LGBTQ+ friendly, affirming, and informed practice.
